allison
Registered: 05/06/09
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Hi, everyone: My name is Alice. I call myself an overcomer and wounded-healer. I got a divorce after 31 years of verbal and physical abuse. I've written my memoir: Ghost Child to Triumph (from a child with no voice, to someone who speaks up against injustice), and have amazing endorsements: Elie Wiesel, Dr. Elaine Weiss, Dr. Larry Dossey, Clint van Zandt, Alice Miller, Nikki Giovanni, Patricia Evans, etc., etc....and plan to self-publish. Just trying to figure out which publisher would be the best. Very confusing.
I grew up with a single mother (never knew my father).....she was verbally and physically violent. Lived in a 120-year old tenement house with cockroaches and rats (they didn't visit often; fear of my mother, LOL), molested by a drunken neighbor while sleeping; mother had left me alone at night, had my hand held over an open fire by another drunken (woman) neighbor.....Snow which came in thru a crack in the wall....Extreme poverty: no phone, refrigerator, car or bathroom (toilet in the attic; always a joy in the dead of night).
I had never heard of spiritual abuse until it happened to me; my church of 31 years voted me out membership, b ecause I got a divorce after 31 years of abuse and then let him live in my house for awhile.
I fought the system for 18 months to try and prevent the pastor (of disaster) from "counseling" any more women, because 2 of the women wanted to commit suicide (because of his "counseling" skills).
In the end (on my birthday), my name was put up on a big screen, followed by the words: "Conduct Unbecoming a Child of God." I was called to a meeting of deacons (17 "men"), not allowed to have a woman with me and asked: "Are you still having sex with your ex?!" No boundaries.
I believe we are all here to make a difference, and I am the moderator of an abused survivors' group.
I went back to school last year (age 61), and won a scholarship; it was easy; all I had to do was write about my life. I was 1 of 10 recipients out of 1,600 women in the U.S. and Canada.
One of my passions is to get the message out there regarding verbal abuse; it is rarely recognized nor understood, not even by some therapists. 1 in 3 women are being abused and it all begins with verbal abuse.
It took me 25 years to find the book which saved my life: TheVerbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans; one Ph.D. said, "It is the cornerstone of civilization." I concur.
I'd love to hear from anyone reading my story. I just joined the NABBW.
wacalice@aol.com
P.S. i am not to "techie" and may not be able to get back into the forum again, LOl, LOL
Love and Hugs to all my sisters, here
Alice (overcomer and wounded-healer)
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